Well soon Mother's Day will be upon us. This is usually a difficult day for me, #1 my sons live enough of a difference they can't just drive over for the day for us to do something, #2-two special ladies.
On the first one, one son lives in Reno and the other in Santa Cruz. The one son who lives in Reno, now has a wife and daughter and the focus and meaning of Mother's Day has changed for him, as it should be. We've gotten together in the past but I do understand that he wishes to celebrate Mother's Day with his wife as she is now the Mother of their daughter. The other who lives in SC, is probably working that day. I'll get the phone call wishing me a "Happy Mother's Day" and I am thankful for that, it is just that I do miss spending the day with both of them.
On #2--two special Ladies are no longer here. One was my Mom. We always kind of had a distance type of relationship. My Mom was not the lovey-dovey type. As she got older she was but our relationship was never that close like I see of other friends of mine with their Mom's. However, my Mom did raise me to believe you could try and do anything you set your mind too and that you should never allow anyone to tell you that you couldn't do or accomplish something. She also made me realize how important it was to get an education and also not to be afraid. And she was right. I found challenging the status quo while not always the safe way to do something to my liking. In my work career there were many jobs where I was "1st or 2nd female" to be doing that job and that I could do that job as well as my male peers. And she was was also right about getting the education. As I look back now, I realize my Mom wanted me to be a strong and independent person capable of taking care of myself.
The other lady was my mother in-law (my Son's grandmother). God, how I miss her. We were extremely close and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't want to pick up the phone and call her. When I was a young wife and mother she helped me out so much, cuz I was pretty scard being a new Mom. She also helped me to sometimes not to fret the small stuff with raising kids. That kids will be kids and you sometimes need to take a step back and re-analyze how you were looking at a situation. After her son and I divorced, her and I remained close. While our interaction was a little hard at the beginning, we finally worked through those issues and remained close until she passed away.
Both of these ladies are gone now, Mom #2 actually passed away on Mother's Day and for Mom #1 we had her memorial service on Mother's Day.
I'll be in a little bit of a funk on Mother's Day morning and then I'll work myself out of it, talk with both of them and then get myself into a better mood.
So Happy Mother's Day to all the Mom's in the world. It is the little things you do that those left behind will always remember, reminiscence and cherish.
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